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Reflections June 2016

The Stag

By Geno Lawrenzi, Jr.

The stag on the hill that protected its young, for example, symbolized a father's love for his children. When I grew up, got married and had children of my own I often pictured the stag as representative of my own love for my children.

One of my favorite childhood movies was “Bambi.” Walt Disney and his animators did an incredible job of creating a deer that brought the animal world alive and enhanced the qualities of life that makes the humans who watch the film become more human.

The stag on the hill that protected its young, for example, symbolized a father's love for his children. When I grew up, got married and had children of my own I often pictured the stag as representative of my own love for my children. It made me feel good to see my young son and daughter asleep in their beds.

Childhood has its dangers as children live and learn. A father needs to let them mature on their own, providing guidance on questions asked and that must be answered. And, like Bambi, the father takes a distance stance to make sure good things happen to his children.

Now I am a grandfather. While my role has changed, in many ways it is still the same. I have two incredible grandchildren that are growing into maturity. Josie and Harrison are different this year than they were two years ago. They have new friends, new questions and demand answers to issues that perplex them.

My daughter and I share a house. She is divorced and is a single mother who has many demands placed on her. She is grateful for my male model influence in the lives of her children, and I am happy to be that model. While she is the ultimate authority in their lives, I play my part. We sometimes argue over discipline. While she respects my opinion, she makes the final call when it comes to discipline and I respect it.

The children understand the difference between us. While they listen to my position, they go to their mother for the final decision on anything. Like the stag on the hill, I stand off at a distance and make sure things transpire smoothly.

Disney was reputed to be a good family man who considered his children and grandchildren when it came to creating Disneyworld and Epcot Center. Like Bil Keane, creator of “Family Circus,” he got much of his material from his children and the world benefitted from their relationship.

The stag on the hill is a symbol that I think every grandfather should remember. It gives a happier, more secure edge to life and happiness.

 

Geno Lawrenzi, Jr. is an international journalist, magazine author, ghostwriter and poker player who lives in Phoenix, Arizona. His email address for your comments and story ideas is This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .

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